A Mother's Woe
I am disturbed.
I am deeply disturbed with children who can't find it in their hearts to care for their aging parents. To see them as a burden, both financially and physically.
I find it disturbing that some even go through the motion of using religion as a basis of relinquishing the responsibilities (and the humanity) of making the last few years of a parent comfortable.
And it disturbs me even more that it happens in my family *sigh*
So can anyone tell me, is it acceptable for a daughter (albeit not by 'blood') to pass her mom around (who according to the doctors, just living out her remaining months) to cousins and nursing homes because:
1) The cousins are 'darah daging' hence more responsible to take care of her.
2) She doesn't have the finances to take care of her anymore (although she just got herself a new house and a brand new car for her child).
3) The only way she can take her back is if there's a maid. And until now, there is no serious efforts to get a maid (cos using the registered agents is too expensive).
4) And get this - since the mom had a few times mentioned that some of the harta should also go to the 'blood relations', she doesn't think it is WORTH IT to dedicate her full time looking after her.
I don't know. Maybe I am feeling overemotional here. But as a daughter (and a mom), I pray to Allah that this will never happen to me. Nau'zubillah.
And to Mama, I love you.
I am deeply disturbed with children who can't find it in their hearts to care for their aging parents. To see them as a burden, both financially and physically.
I find it disturbing that some even go through the motion of using religion as a basis of relinquishing the responsibilities (and the humanity) of making the last few years of a parent comfortable.
And it disturbs me even more that it happens in my family *sigh*
So can anyone tell me, is it acceptable for a daughter (albeit not by 'blood') to pass her mom around (who according to the doctors, just living out her remaining months) to cousins and nursing homes because:
1) The cousins are 'darah daging' hence more responsible to take care of her.
2) She doesn't have the finances to take care of her anymore (although she just got herself a new house and a brand new car for her child).
3) The only way she can take her back is if there's a maid. And until now, there is no serious efforts to get a maid (cos using the registered agents is too expensive).
4) And get this - since the mom had a few times mentioned that some of the harta should also go to the 'blood relations', she doesn't think it is WORTH IT to dedicate her full time looking after her.
I don't know. Maybe I am feeling overemotional here. But as a daughter (and a mom), I pray to Allah that this will never happen to me. Nau'zubillah.
And to Mama, I love you.
posted by lion3ss | 10:15 AM
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